The Case of the Sketchy T-Shirt
You enjoy your leadership position and have been able to spend quality time with almost every person on your residence hall floor . There is one student in particular who hasn't seemed very interested in hanging out with you, but you've finally convinced them to attend an event you planned for Wednesday night about Bystander Intervention, regarding instances of sexual violence . When they show up, you notice they're wearing a sexually suggestive, and potentially offensive t-shirt .
You know the shirt is sexually suggestive, totally inappropriate for the event, and out of dress code, but if you tell them to go and change, they probably will not come back . It will be like starting to build that relationship all over again . Only this time, you think they will be even less likely to open up to you in the future .
> What would you do?
> How do you resolve the conflict between individual freedom and the needs of the community?
You enjoy your leadership position and have been able to spend quality time with almost every person on your residence hall floor . There is one student in particular who hasn't seemed very interested in hanging out with you, but you've finally convinced them to attend an event you planned for Wednesday night about Bystander Intervention, regarding instances of sexual violence . When they show up, you notice they're wearing a sexually suggestive, and potentially offensive t-shirt .
You know the shirt is sexually suggestive, totally inappropriate for the event, and out of dress code, but if you tell them to go and change, they probably will not come back . It will be like starting to build that relationship all over again . Only this time, you think they will be even less likely to open up to you in the future .
> What would you do?
> How do you resolve the conflict between individual freedom and the needs of the community?
I would tell that person that they would have to leave the event, for the shirt is offensive and not appropriate for the event. I think it would be an alright thing to do because you are in a leadership position and that is a part of being a leader. I would then give it some time and try to be friends with the person again.
ReplyDeleteI would go tell him that the shirt is not appropriate for an event like this. It could go both ways: He'll either freak out and cause a ruckus because not being stereotypical or anything here but if he's wearing the shirt in the first place then he obviously isn't very mature and will handle the situation in a very immature way. But on the other hand, maybe he'll respect your honesty with him and be cool about it and become friends and live happily ever after.
ReplyDeleteI would make that person leave the event and change his shirt because it could be offensive to others and inappropriate. I think it is the right thing to do because you are the leader of the group and need to take leadership for your group.
ReplyDeleteI would tell them that they need to change their shirt or they would have to leave the party for good. If he would listen I think we would be able to start a nice relationship with each other. But if he wouldn't listen I guess it would still be really hard to start a nice relationship and he might not want to hang out with you even more than before.
ReplyDeleteI would tell them to change or out a sweatshirt over the shirt or they would have to leave because its not appropriate for the event. It would probably be offensive to others to. And i would tell them that. It would be the right thing to do to tell her. because that leadership to tell them the right thing to do and lead them to good things not bad.
ReplyDeletethey would either be asked to leave, change the shirt, or put a sweatshirt on. It would be insensitive to others. I would approach them and tell them the situation. I wouldn't feel sorry because its the way it is. The relationship would be rocky but you have to do what you have to do.
ReplyDeleteI would tell them to leave, and ask them their reasoning for wearing the offensive shirt. I would try again to be friends with the person, because, everybody deserves a friend...
ReplyDeleteI would tell them to get out, and ask the reasoning for wearing the rude/offensive T-shirt. I would try to be a forgiving person, because every person deserves at-least one second chance.
ReplyDeletei would confront the student about the shirt and ask him put something on over the shirt or change the shirt because the shirt is not appropriate for the event. i would eventually try to resolve the friendship with the student. i would try to keep calm during the whole process.
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